This morning, I woke up to the coos and chatter of an almost five month old (such a sweetheart!). I fed him, grabbed some coffee, and we headed over to the Travelers Rest Farmers Market (a local favorite) to check out the various booths, food trucks, and live music. We met our friends Rachel and Lucy, and enjoyed walking around before heading over to the shade of the outdoor amphitheater to eat our Circa Doughnuts! Today’s flavors were Lavender Lemon and Early Grey with Charred Grapefruit. The grapefruit was our favorite!
I also picked up some artisan Gouda cheese made from local raw milk, melons, and a cute little succulent for an upcoming birthday gift for someone. Rachel found some cute handmade earrings, fresh lettuce, and some fresh pastas and sauce for a quick meal later this week.
I am finally starting to work on menu plans again, and I was looking forward to at least one more watermelon-feta salad this season. They were sold out of watermelon at the store this week, so I was excited to find this mammoth watermelon at the market–super sweet and only $5, plus it makes a great baby footrest. If you haven’t checked it out, the TR Farmers Market is off of Highway 25, just outside of downtown TR, and open Saturdays 9 AM to 1 PM. For the perfect morning, bring some cash (not all vendors take card) and a cooler to fill with Farmers Market finds, then jump on over to the Swamp Rabbit Trail for a morning walk! Have a great weekend!
One of the challenges of being a new mom is friendships. The challenge is multi-faceted. First, you’re so tired from countless feedings in the early days (and nights) that you literally have a hard time concentrating on more than three words at a time. Second, your doctor told you it was flu season and to stay away from people for six weeks or so…so you’re missing the fellowship of church and work and other social gatherings, and you feel like you’re always about a dozen steps behind on the latest goings-on in your friends’ lives. You’ve missed countless announcements and updates (even if you’ve been on social media more than you realized possible to try to fill that void). Then there’s the dichotomy of not always wanting to talk about kids but not knowing what else to talk about because they’re pretty much all-consuming in those first few months.
When you finally do make it back to church, the timing of services and feedings isn’t always complimentary, and you’re faced with the very real temptation to not even show up. But you keep going because the moms before you have said that the mother’s room was a fantastic spot for fellowship. Some days it is, and that’s great. Other days, there’s 8 moms in there at the same time, and it can be a little overwhelming–and you feel like you’re over-talking in an effort to relate to another human being. Then there are those days when you really want the fellowship, even if it’s overstimulating, and you find yourself in the mother’s room all alone.
One of the last posts I wrote was about having friends in all ages and stages of life, and I think this is more important now than ever! Sometimes hanging out with the fellow-new-mommies is exactly what you need, but then you realize that you’re all just figuring this out and there are countless others who have gone before and have some great advice. And it’s not worth getting offended over whether they offer said advice with or without solicitation. 😉 Then there are others who may not be exactly in the same stage as you right now, but they still want to be your friend and are desperately trying to relate to you too.
I just finished reading two blog posts (a series called “Keep Your Circle Broken” by Sara Horn), and I hope you’ll read them both and glean from them truths about always making room for one more friend and not letting yourself get offended when they haven’t read the latest blog post on “15 Things Not to Say to So-and-So.” Just accept them for who they are and know that they’re probably just trying to make friends too. We all stumble over our words and say the wrong things sometimes. But grace is about forgiving and choosing to move forward in strength and peace. Here are the posts:
“Part One: When It’s Hard Making Friends”
“Part Two: Ways to Say Hello”
And as you step in to church this Sunday, keep your eyes open for the new mom, the single lady, the grieving widow, the empty-nester, the nursery worker, the…you get the point…and go up and say “Hello” to that sister in Christ. You never know what friendship might blossom by making room for one more conversation–for one more new friend.
Hello again! It’s hard to believe how fast the last year has gone. And just because the blog has been silent, it doesn’t mean the journey ended. Our journey has changed directions a bit, however. Since the last post, Bryan and I have welcomed a new baby into our family! Kyle was born late February, and life during pregnancy and this new stage of parenthood has been a bit crazy–to say the least–but a wonderful, exciting kind of crazy. Kyle is absolutely beautiful and one of the sweetest kids we’ve met (we might be a little biased). 🙂 But we’re truly enjoying this new part of our journey. Pregnancy and childbirth has actually drawn us together as a couple–and family–more than we could have imagined or hoped for!
Bryan’s still in culinary school (only six and a half classes left), while working as a cook. I’m back at Frontline as their Development Coordinator and learning to juggle home life, mom life, work life, and childcare. We still love creating meals together and look forward to sharing those with you again.
We are also in the middle of negotiating the sale of our first family home and will be in a “house-sitting” transition for the next little bit while we look for the next property that we can call “home.”
If there’s one thing this new journey of parenthood and house hunting has taught us, it’s the value of leading a “peaceful and quiet life” (I Tim. 2:2). We’ve slowed down a bit, gotten to bed a little earlier (despite waking up multiple times throughout the night–especially early on), made family time more of a priority, and are enjoying family walks on the Swamp Rabbit Trail and around Furman Lake. It’s a simple life, but one full of joy in Jesus and grace towards one another (hopefully).
So, thank you for your patience, and stay tuned as we pick up on the next step in this journey of seeing and savoring Jesus as a family of three.
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